I’ve been kinda bored lately, so I’ve been reading other WordPress blogs. Of course, this invites a lot of blog-reading headaches, especially when someone blogs about something other people feel strongly about, and then it turns into a flamefest in the comments (which is why I usually avoid reading comments on these types of arguments). One of these subjects is marriage and the evolution of marriage. And the inability of neo-con religious goofballs to adjust to the evolution of anything, let alone marriage (which is oh-so-sacred, although 51+% of them get divorced at some point).
So my favorite group released yet another controversial report on how people view marriage, and is it obsolete in the traditional sense. Of course, everyone goes on the defensive and takes from the survey what they want while ignoring the reason the report was published in the first place. Here’s the problems I see with other people covering the report (including the Huffington Post):
1. 4 of 10 people see marriage as obsolete. Somehow, people in defense of marriage are trying to frame that statement into “that means that 6 out of 10 people see marriage as not obsolete.” Okay, you can infer that. But that’s not a point, or even a good point of the survey. What the survey is saying is that people feeling indifferent or cynical towards marriage is growing. A previous study shows it was basically 2.8 out of 10 people. Now it’s grown 4% to 6% more. That’s significant. And it’s a trend.
2. Marriage is a sacred ritual that belongs to the religion. I don’t know where the Hell that statement comes into play. Almost 80% of the so-acclaimed Christian commentors seem to think this survey proves it. There is nothing in the survey questions that I read that asks if people think it’s “sacred.” So stop trying to frame this study to fit your goal of stiffling gay marriage rights. Or cohabitation. Or remaining single all your life. Oy.
And that comes around to my opinion. My opinion is – again, who the fuck cares what other people do in their private lives? Christians honestly should just worry about themselves and their souls, and not the morality of other people. I mean, less than half of married people are staying together after a few years. I’m sure that a lot of them are Christians. Maybe they should worry about that problem.
Get married if you love the person and know it will work. Don’t get married to save a few bucks, or because you lust for each other, or because it seems convenient and your parents tell you to. There’s also nothing wrong with never getting married and living together. Or having a free-style life with no permanent partners. Or gay people getting married and living their lives together.
Live with it.